Complimenting

This week’s advisory theme will revolve around the act of complimenting!

Tuesday A.M.- 8:00 to 8:15

Set up Video in advance: http://www.stlouisrams.com/videos/videos/Drive-By-Compliments-with-Chris-Long/7e8f831e-05c5-4816-9067-e1ee94a987c7

1.      8:00-8:02 Show video– It is called Drive by Compliments w/ Chris Long from the St. Louis Rams (1min47sec):

2.      8:02-8:06 Pose this question:  What does it mean to give a compliment?

a.      Give the students some time to think about their answers and then choose a few to voice their ideas.

3.      8:06-8:12 Lead the discussion further by giving a concrete explanation of what a compliment is.

a.      A compliment is a highly positive remark based on a praise worthy observation; is enhances your awareness and consciousness of the people around you.

b.      A compliment is an expression of esteem, respect, affection, or admiration; especially:  an admiring remark

                                                              i.      Explain that saying “you’re awesome” is not a compliment.  It needs to be specific (use the one below or make up own):

1.      I was really impressed with how you held the door open for Mr. Deakin when he was carrying all of those text books this morning.  You are so awesome!

4.      8:12-815 Walk By Challenge: Give your advisory a challenge today;

a.      Tell them that you are challenging them to pay it forward by observing their peers today and paying compliments to one another.  It is not about receiving compliments but giving of yourself and being selfless to lift others spirits and make a positive impact in someone’s day.

b.      Explain to them that when receiving a compliment, there is only one appropriate, positive way to respond; SMILE and say THANK YOU!    

                                                              i.      You don’t want to negate a compliment by responding negatively.

1.      Ex. You look so beautiful today, I really love that outfit on you.

2.      Negate: Really I don’t feel pretty, I feel frumpy.

3.      Correct:  (Smile) Thank you so much, I really appreciate you saying that.

Tuesday PM- 2:55 to 3:30

1.      All advisories should meet in the gym.

a.      I will lead a conversation pertaining to compliments given, compliments received; how do you think a genuine compliment can effect a persons mood & how your brain responds to compliments. 

Wednesday AM 8:00 to 8:15: “Fish bowl Validation”

Set up in advance- write each student’s name on a small sheet of paper, fold them up and place their names in a bucket/bowl/whatever you have. If someone is absent then you take their name.

1.      8:00-8:05: Explain that a “validation” is an elongated compliment in which you tell a person 3 to 5 of the most authentic (real, true, genuine) compliments you can about that person.

a.      1) I love how you have always been there for me, supported me through everything, and always listen and guide me.

b.      2) You are one of the sweetest people I know.

c.       3) I admire how you push yourself to be a better person everyday

d.      4) I admire how selfless you are; you always put other above yourself.

2.      8:05-8:10: Tell the students that they are going to draw a name out of a bowl, but they can’t say the name of the person that they get out loud. It’s a secret.  The goal is to become aware of that person throughout the day and notice 3 to 5 remarkable qualities that you admire within that person. Then secretly write down your compliments on the note card that I am giving you now. Bring the note card with you to advisory/office hours this afternoon and turn it in to your advisor. Do Not Forget it. (if you are leaving early for any reason, please turn it in before you leave.)

3.       8:10-8:15: Pick a Name: Have the students draw out a name, and have them show it to you (Write it down on a sheet of paper so you can keep track of who gets who- if they draw out their own name, then have them redraw.)

Wednesday PM 2:55 to 3:30- OFFICE HOURS

1.      Collect all the cards and read them over tonight.  Make sure that they are appropriate.  Nothing negative or insincere/sarcastic

Thursday AM 8:00 to 8:15- Share Validations

1.      Sit in a circle.

2.      Explain that we are going to share our validations with each other this morning and that while doing this it is important to hear the compliments, accept the compliments with thank you’s and to not negate the compliment.

3.      Pass the compliment out to the people that wrote them,  (If you don’t finish you can continue Friday morning)

4.      Remind everyone that we are meeting in houses this afternoon and it is important that we all get to houses at 2:55 so we can go outside and play a game

Thursday PM 2:55 to 3:30- “Complimentary Tag”

1.      Meet in your houses. (areas for Tag) Glades- Grass Area of the softball field; Reefs- grass area between the portables and softball field: Keys- Soccer Field (if a soccer game is going on then you can play on & around the HS deck.  NO PARKING LOT!

2.      2:55-3:05 Explain the Rules of Complimentary Tag.

a.      1^st Each house will have 3 students that are “it”.  1 from each grade level.

b.      2^nd The person who is it, cannot tag someone from their own grade level. They have to tag a person from a different grade level

                                                              i.      7^th grade cannot tag another 7^th grader.  They can tag a 6^th or 8^th grader.

c.       3^rd If you get tagged, you have to pay the person that tagged you a compliment.  And then you become it.

                                                              i.      Miss Palumbo is it.  She tags Ms. Rich.  Ms. Rich has to pay Miss Palumbo a compliment. Ms Rich is now it.

d.      4^th You can’t tag the person that just tagged you, you have to tag someone new.

                                                              i.      Ms. Rich cannot go and tag Miss Palumbo back, she has to go tag someone new like Mr. Wooster 

e.      3:05- 3:25 Go outside and have fun J

Friday AM 8:00 to 9:00- The Power of Compliments & The Little Things

Set up in videos in advance: There are two videos (posted below) part 1 & 2.  These videos are about “The Power of Compliments” and how it affects romantic relationships.  It is important that before showing the video, you explain what I have written down below; I don’t want the only thing that they take away from this to be that they watch a video about people who are dating.

Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?annotation_id=annotation_3782269089&feature=iv&src_vid=7Vik-Dy3jrE&v=opMQxa1JkuM (7min)

Part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Vik-Dy3jrE (3min7sec)

1.      8:00-8:07 Explain to the students prior to playing the videos that the videos they are about to watch pertain to the “Power of Compliments” and how they can affect relationships.  There are many types of relationships: Parent/Children, Teacher/Student, Friend/Friend, and romantic relationships.  Relationship by definition is the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other.  Tell them that while they watch the video to consider how they can relate this to normal friendship relationships.

2.      8:07-8:17 Play Part 1 & 2

3.      8:17 – 8:40 Flag Ceremony

4.      8:40 – 8:50 Pose the question: How can you use what you just watched within your friendship relationships?

a.      Give them the opportunity to share their thoughts

5.      8:50 – 9:00 Finish sharing any validations that need to be read

a.      Wrap it up with this quote: “You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” ~Kahlil Gibran

Giving Back- The Simple Stuff

Advisory Bulletin

Giving Back I – The Simple Stuff

December 1 - 5, 2014

This month we are focusing on giving back.  This week we are focusing on giving back in simple but meaningful ways to make the world a better place, simple ways like smiling and saying “thanks.”

Did you ever notice that the simplest things are sometimes the best? For some, just hanging with a good friend can be as enjoyable as going on a vacation.  A child can have just as much fun with the gift boxes as with the gifts themselves. 

Monday, December 1, 2014  --            Monday Morning Meeting

Tuesday, December 2, 2014 –

a.m. –                                                           

»        Kick off the discussion with a silly (but true) clip: http://www.cartoonnetwork.com/tv_shows/gumball/video/beauty-tips-clip.html  (It IS all in the eyes!)

»        Did you know??  … that from the standpoint of your brain’s reward center, receiving a GENUINE smile creates the equivalent neurological response as receiving $25,000!!!  Your brain reads those two situations equally.  Think about that!  Every genuine smile you give, it’s as if you just gave that person $25,000.  Every genuine smile you receive, it’s as if that person just gave you $25,000!

»        Did you know??  … that children smile genuine smiles (not social smiles) on average 400 times a day… but by adulthood people smile on average 20 times a day.  We need to smile more!  Such a simple way to make the world a better place!!

p.m. –

»        Kick off the afternoon with the first 2:20 of this video:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U9cGdRNMdQQ

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»        Discussion:  Who has a great smile?  What makes a great smile?  Scientifically, what makes a great smile….  face muscle chart (found in email and hand out)               

»        Let’s check out some yearbooks and distinguish between social and Duchenne smiles. 

»        trolling for smiles – look through the smiles below; can your advisees tell which smiles are social smiles and which ones are Duchenne?       Duchenne = eye muscles activated, smile lines around eyes, cheeks raised; corners of mouth upturned.

»        better yet, walk around and smile at people – who smiles back with a social smile? a Duchenne / genuine smile?  Try it at home!

Wednesday, December 3–  

           

            A simple way to make your life easier and grades better:  EXECUTIVE      FUNCTIONING!! Let’s take a look at your planners!  And your binders!

Thursday, December 4 – 

            So we know that simply SMILING in a genuine way is one way to make onesself and    others happier.  It’s one way to give back.  Another way to give back (& simultaneously             make ourselves happier):  just say THANKS more often. 

            On the white board or using post-it’s brainstorm people, places and things          for which             your group is grateful.

           

Friday, December 5 –

            1.  Introduce a new term, important for the month of December especially:  The           Hedonic Treadmill.  [Image: being chained to a treadmill]

            Root term: hedonism = the endless pursuit of pleasure over all else.  The Hedonic         Treadmill is a term that speaks to the fact that people tend to think that things will make them happier – that new pair of Kobe’s, having a lot of $, a fancy car, etc…  But what      scientists have observed is             that we get a quick surge of happiness when we receive a      material item.  After that, we return to whatever our normal level of happiness is.  So we are tied to this treadmill of wanting more and more.

            There’s nothing wrong with getting cool stuff.  It’s just that we need to recognize that it’s             also important to increase our regular level of happiness and that there are other, more             effective and long-term ways to do this.

            One way is by cultivating gratitude.

            2.  Show this 4+ minute video: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U5lZBjWDR_c&feature=em-share_video_user

            3.  Either working individually or in pairs (depending on your group’s cohesion and     trust),             fill out the three columns on a piece of paper:

                        People  /  Places  /  Things … for which I am grateful.

            4.  Now attach people to those items listed – whom can you thank for that? 

            5.  Have each advisee write a SPECIFIC note on the back of the thank you cards             provided.  Vague=thank for being awesome.  Specific/Better:  Coach, thanks for staying      after practice with me to help me work on my lay-ups.

People who regularly focus on their gratitude list are HAPPIER PEOPLE.

Spirit Week 2

Advisory Bulletin

The Spirit Lives On….

November 10 – 15, 2014

This week in Spirit Central….

»        We continue to promote the Canned Food Drive.

»        8^th graders return triumphant from Wewa.

»        We work on Challenge Day skits & flags

»        Birthday Breakfasts

Monday, November 10, 2014  --         Monday Morning Meeting

Tuesday, November 11, 2014 –

a.m. – Promote the Canned Food Drive

»        Take flyers to Lower School Classrooms.

»        Tape flyers around the school

»        Talk up Food Drive to lower school kids and parents in hallways.  Hand out flyers.

p.m. – 8^th Grade:

»        Debrief Wewa and how we bring the experience back to every day school life. 

»        Paul and Katherine can ask questions from the perspective of not having been there and therefore, getting their experiences. 

»        Christin &/or Steve can discuss from the perspective of having shared memories.

              7^th Grade: 

»        Finish Flags OR relay perimeter game in gym.

»        Perimeter Game (watch before playing) (2 exercise balls): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCPEV3_auKQ

»        Executive Functioning Skill:  work before play.

              6^th Grade: 

»        Lindsay: Advertise Food Drive – Help teachers hand out flyers to parents as kids are getting into their cars.  Does anyone have a can costume??

»        Margaret & Linda: Finish flags, make flyers or go to after school kids and hand out flyers.

Wednesday, November 12 – Binder check & Planner Check – give merits to     kids who earn them.

Thursday, November 13  –  a.m. & p.m.:  SKITS!

Friday, November 14 – Advisory Breakfasts

Red Ribbon Week

Red Ribbon Week

Advisory Plans

By David, Carter, Kiran, and Adam

Tuesday 21, A.M.:

1.      You will have a bag numbered 1-9 containing random items in it. (We will distribute evenly, non bias). That morning, your kids in the advisory will have to create a skit (approximately 2 minutes long, with a 1 minute minimum and a 3 minute maximum) that represents the message of say NO to drugs. They will practice that skit in the morning.

2.      Rules:

a.       They may ONLY use the items in the bags as props, nothing else other than themselves.

b.      Everyone must be involved in the skit.

c.       The skit will be judged on how well the message of say NO to drugs was sent and the creativity used, how they used the props, and how the group followed steps 1 and 2.

d.      I encourage you (advisors) to help them with the skit and even play a small role in it (if you want to), it could add style to their skit.

3.      The skits will be performed in that afternoon in the gym.

4.      The grades will compete against each other for house points (10 probably).

5.      Make sure your advisory is ready.

Tuesday 21, P.M.:

1.      All the advisors please take your advisory to the gym and be ready to perform the skit.

2.      The 6^th grade advisory’s will perform first (*subject to change).

a.       There will be mystery judges judging the skits. Whichever Advisory wins the skit, their house will get points for their house.

3.      The 7^th grade will perform their skits (*orders subject to change)

a.       Judges will pick who won with best skit, they will get points.

4.      The 8^th grade will follow the 7^th and 6^th grades having the same procedure as them.

5.      DISMISSAL

Wednesday 22, A.M.:

Have your students watch this video about natural highs and not taking drugs. VERY IMPORTANT: ONLY PLAY THE VIDEO TILL 4:14. DO NOT GO PAST THAT POINT!

1.      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nN1egg0ptTA

a.       VERY IMPORTANT: ONLY PLAY THE VIDEO TILL 4:14. DO NOT GO PAST THAT POINT!

2.      Ask your students what they thought of the video and discuss it with them.

3.      You could ask them what their favorite part of it was and why.

4.      You should have them answer some of the questions closer to the end of the video.

5.      Ask them how did the video say to be drug free and did they think the video was good (did it want them to not to drugs, did it influence them).

Thursday 23, A.M.:

1.      You will be supplied the word searches and the chart.

2.      Your students will have to find all (the number will be specified on the actual word search).

3.      It is kind of like a race, have the students split up into teams of 1 or 2 (if you have to them there can be a team of three) and try to find all the words and put them into the correct columns the fastest.

4.      They can check with you because you will have an answer key.

5.      It is an advisory friendly race that is trying to see if the kids know what is good or bad.

Thursday 23, P.M.:

1.      Please take your advisory to the gym and get in groups of your houses.

2.      We will announce in the gym the tomorrow is crazy sock day and the Advisory from each grade with the person who has the craziest socks gains house points. So wear CRAZY SOCKS tomorrow.

3.      There will be a white board set up and your house will get a marker. You will have around 20 minutes (*time subject to change, it matters how fast you get to the gym).

4.      We will shout go and the kids will go looking for red ribbons throughout the school. Each ribbon has a drug fact on it.

5.      Once they find one, they will run back to the gym and write their fact on the board (their section of it). Please use a numbered list.

6.      When time is called, the house with the most facts will win house points.

7.      The clues will not be hidden past the high school gate by the band room. If you are looking in places like the library PLEASE WALK.

8.      There will be no clues that are hidden in classrooms.

9.      Please be respectful to other people throughout the campus.

Friday 24, A.M.:

1.      Today is CRAZY SOCK DAY!!!

2.      Adam and Kiran will come around to each or your advisory’s and take pictures of the craziest sock’s in your advisory (you can have more than 1 person, the more people you have the better chance of winning you have).

3.      They will bring the pictures to me and I will pick (no bias) 1 pair of the craziest socks from each grade, and that advisory’s house will get points (probably 5, *subject to change).

4.      I will walk around to each advisory and tell the winners, and I will tell them (you could also tell them) that Tuesday is SPORTS DAY!!! That they should wear sports clothes (like sports jerseys or team supporting shirts) for the day. We can remind them at Next Monday morning meeting, but can you please put it in their planners and on their calendar.

Tuesday 28, A.M.:

1.      Ask your advisory if they know why they are wearing sports jerseys to support NO drugs and red ribbon week.

2.      See what answers they give you and try to piggyback off of them and continue the conversation.

3.      The main point that I think is important is that sports give you natural highs, so drugs are useless to you. You can tell them that. Also,  you can tell them that if they EVER (Emphasis) want to succeed in life, that they should never do drugs.

4.      Tell them that later in the afternoon that they will be watching a video on natural highs and professional sports players and why drugs will get you nowhere.

Tuesday 28, P.M.:

1.      Tell them that the NO drug natural high video is about Tim Howard.

2.      If they don’t know who he is, tell them that he is a professional soccer player in the English Premier league (one of the top soccer leagues in the world). He is also the United States of America’s world team goalie. So he is the best goalie from America. He is also one of the best goalies in the world.

3.      Show them the video from this link:

4.       http://naturalhigh.org/video/tim-howard-us-mens-national-team-goalkeeper/

5.      Ask them what they though of the video.

6.      Ask them what dives them to do good things. Tim Howard said he wanted to win another medal or trophy, that’s what drove him. Ask them what drives them in school, sports, and making good decisions in life.

Wednesday 29, A.M.:

1.      You will be supplied with crossword puzzles with drug related questions on them.

2.      Have your students get into pairs of 2 (again, this time make them get with a person they don’t usually work with), 1 pair of three is fine if necessary.

3.      Have your students fill out and answer the questions on the crossword puzzle and have them try to find the secret phrase.

4.      It is another inter-Advisory friendly competition.

5.      If the group says their done, check if the crossword is fully filled in, and the phrase is right (you will have an answer key).

6.      You may help them if they really need it or if you would like.

7.      First group done wins

8.      They win bragging rights.

Thursday 30, A.M.:

1.      You will practice for the game later.

2.      The blanket game.

3.      This practice time is so later when you have the actual competition you know the rules and you are better at it so you can gain points for your house.

4.      You will be supplied with the blanket/cloth.

5.      You’ll need two people to hold up a blanket as if it were a curtain. Separate the group of players in half and place the groups on opposite sides of the blanket. Each group picks 1 person from their team (very quietly so the other team doesn’t hear) and that person goes and stands right behind the blanket (make sure that the players standing at the blanket cannot see each other). Choose one player from each team to get ready for the blanket to drop. The two people holding the blanket drop it and the two players shout out the other players name from the opposite team that was standing behind the blanket. The first person to yell the name correctly gets one point. First team with (any number you decide) wins. Friendly competition.

Thursday 30, P.M.:

1.      Your house students will spilt up into teams of two, teachers can make the teams (make sure to have at least 1, 6^th 1, 7^th and 1, 8^th grader on each team.

2.      You will be supplied with a large non-see through blanket or cloth.

3.      The team will get on the other side of the cloth.

4.      Each team will send 1 person (without the other team knowing) to right next to the cloth.

5.      There will be 2 people holding the cloth up.

6.      The other team will do the same.

7.      On 3, the people holding the cloth will drop it, and the person from each team has to say the name of the other teams person before the other person says their name.

8.      SIMPLIER RULES: You’ll need two people to hold up a blanket as if it were a curtain. Separate the group of players in half and place the groups on opposite sides of the blanket. Each group picks 1 person from their team (very quietly so the other team doesn’t hear) and that person goes and stands right behind the blanket (make sure that the players standing at the blanket cannot see each other). Choose one player from each team to get ready for the blanket to drop. The two people holding the blanket drop it and the two players shout out the other players name from the opposite team that was standing behind the blanket. The first person to yell the name correctly gets one point. First team with (any number of points the house decides) wins. Do not tell them the game or the rules they will be playing until the blanket is up and the teams are separated.

9.      Leave around 7 minutes left to talk about this.

10.  Ask the students why you think this game is producing the slogan NO drugs.

11.  See what their answers are and piggyback off of them.

12.  I think that this game packs excitement and gives you a rush of adrenaline. These are the feelings you have when playing sports, etc. If you ever do drugs, you will never experience this feeling again.

13.  So it is persuading them to not do drugs so they can feel excitement and live their life the right way. But that is just 1 idea.

14.  Tell the houses that tomorrow is RED OUT and that they should wear and red shirt and anything else red.

Friday 31, A.M.:

1.      Have your advisors have a discussion with you about why the students think Red Ribbon Week is celebrated.

2.      Try to encourage them to give thoughtful answers.

3.      Ask them how THEY could be an influence to saying NO to drugs.

4.      Ask them how they think Red Ribbon Week influences younger kids, and tell them that the younger kids look up to them and whatever your students do, the elementary students think is cool, so they will do it to (when they have the chance). Tell them that they are the leaders for this past Red Ribbon Week and leaders for the upcoming Weeks.

5.      You can bring up any point you want to, to discuss with them.

6.      Finish any flag decorating or anything else you are missing from other weeks of advisory